Great News for Marriage Equality

As I've said before, the Family Equality Council is an LGBT organization near and dear to my heart.  In light of the AMAZING news surrounding the Supreme Court's rulings overturning the federal ban on same-sex marriage and restoring marriage equality to California, I wanted to make a donation to FEC on behalf of all new full production clients who book with us at 14 Stories.  SO here's the deal: for all full service weddings booked with 14 Stories by August 15, 2013, 14 Stories will make a donation of $1000 to Family Equality Council.  For every elopement booked in that time, we'll donate $150.  So, show the LOVE with 14 Stories and Family Equality Council.

Which Traditions Should I Keep?

Most of us have been to a bunch of straight weddings and now that you're planning your own gay wedding, it seems obvious to look to those straight weddings for inspiration. After all, it's what we grew up knowing.  I've been talking to a bunch of couples lately who are struggling with what traditions to keep and what to ditch when planning their own wedding.

Let's start by examining some of the traditions we've seen over the years:

...couple doesn't see each other before the ceremony, an often religious ceremony, photos during cocktail hour, a long break between the ceremony and reception, the wedding party introduction, the first dance, father-daughter dance, mother-son dance, dinner, toasts, dancing, line dances, garter toss, bouquet toss, cake cutting, yadda yadda yadda...maybe a Horah for good measure...

I've planned hundreds of gay weddings and I can tell you that we skip a bunch of these things!! SOMETIMES my couples will do a first dance and cake cutting, but that's about it! If parent dances happen, they typically happen spontaneously, rather than to a specific song. Formal photos typically happen before the ceremony.

As far as I'm concerned (and most of my clients agree), when it comes to these elements, turn them on their head! Why introduce the wedding party? It's your day and you may not even have a wedding party. Why do photos during cocktail hour when you can enjoy a cocktail with your closest friends and family?

And if you really want to be traditional, consider some Gay Wedding Traditions - yes, there are some!

What traditions are you keeping and what are you ditching?

(photo by Kat Hempel)

Decorating Your Wedding Venue

When we are working with clients, we are often asked to transform a space from a blank canvas into something magical.  This is usually a collaborative effort between the client's vision, our vision and the team of vendors we pull together for each wedding.  From the stationery to the lighting and flowers, we can make everything custom and personal.  Below are some before and after photos from a wedding where we transformed a church hall into a contemporary and elegant wedding space.

The room when we first arrived - some tables were the church's and the rental company left all the chairs stacked.  We used all rectangular tables, some 6' and some 8'. The grooms sat at a small round sweetheart table.

Another view - the room itself was really cool, a blank canvas for our design

We laid out all the tables according to the floor plan we'd pre-designed.  We took down the LOVE banner and another banner and cleared off the corner by the stage, next to the piano (it was full of 'stuff').  

We draped the tables with a violet lamour linen that captures light really well.  We placed the leather slipper chairs according to my floor plan.

The floral arrangements (two different styles on alternating tables) start to get set by Spruce Floral (they rock!) The little signs in the foreground are the table name signs, not yet distributed.

The team at work.  Place settings go down...

Teal napkins in place; drapes closed on the stage.

Candles in matching colors in place.  Menus for each table distributed.

And now for some AFTER pictures:

Style 2 of centerpieces - view of the full, completed table

With all of the window shades drawn, and the addition of uplights around the room

It's pretty cool, right?  Even with my amateur photos... It's fantastic to see the evolution of an event space, and in a space like this, almost anything is possible.  Believe it or not, I have a photo from the very next day when this room was used for a church rummage sale!

How are you planning to style your wedding?