One of the questions I often get from couples and clients (and reporters and anyone curious about gay weddings) is, “What’s normal? What does a gay wedding look like?” This is one of the reasons I developed a seminar for engaged same-sex couples and another seminar for those in the wedding industry hoping to work with them—and it’s the main reason I wrote my book!
Every time gay marriage becomes legal in a new place, this question arises over and over. Couples never expected the day would come and don’t know what to do to prepare or how to make their wedding special. In fact, I went to an event recently where I heard a story of an Iowa couple who came to Massachusetts to get married one week before the ruling legalizing gay marriage in Iowa was issued. I know that when many same-sex couples in Iowa began applying for their marriage licenses, they were thinking, “Now what? How the heck do I plan a gay wedding?”
You should know that any wedding, gay or straight, should be about the personality and style of the couple. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. The fundamental decisions are the same regardless of the couple’s orientation. You have to think about how much to spend, who to invite, what kind of celebration to have, and where to have it. This is your wedding and you've waited long enough for the rights - don't let anyone ever say anything to you like, "That's not what happens at a REAL wedding." You can define what is your own normal.
photo by Closed Circle Photography
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